Forgiveness is a tricky thing to do, but it’s essential for your spiritual wellbeing. When we hold on to old hurts, we also retain the negative energies attached to the situation and the people that were involved, and negative energy stops us moving forward. It keeps us anchored in the past, when we should be living with joy in the present moment, and it also impacts our future, because we put barriers in place to protect ourselves from further suffering. We feel we’ve ‘Learned our lesson,’ and we won’t allow the same situation to arise again, yet the truth of the matter is very different.
For all we talk of different emotions – love, hate, envy, jealousy, happiness, bitterness, fear – there are only two things we need to concern ourselves with. All our choices, and the way these choices impact on our lives, originate from two positions, a place of fear or a place of love. What does this mean in practical terms though?
Fear is not just being scared of stuff, whether in our minds, in real life or in the movies. Fear is the term we use for all negative emotions, and it arises from the ego, the part of us that wants to stay in the comfort zone, protect us from danger and hurt, and keep out the bad stuff. There’s nothing wrong with looking out for ourselves, it’s the only responsible thing to do, but if you come from a place of fear, for example, refusing to forgive someone for real or perceived past hurts, all you are doing is creating more bitterness in your life. That’s because fear is a negative energy, and under the Law of Attraction, what we focus on is what we get more of. The Universe only knows that if you spend a lot of time and energy on bearing a grudge or putting up barriers around your heart, it must be important to you, so you attract more negative situations into your life. The good news is, you can change your focus and shift your energy, and the way to do that is to make your choices from love, not fear.
Love isn’t just about the hearts and flowers stuff, fabulous as that may be. Love is the opposite of fear, it’s the positive energy that allows you to connect with your soul and make your choices for the right reasons. It’s about trusting that all will be well, whatever may be happening around you, because you know, deep down, that everything happens for a reason, and sometimes bad things need to be played out to make room for the blessings that are coming in. So, how do we work with the positive energy of love? It’s easier than you think, because we are born to love, but life teaches us to fear. It comes down to whether we react to what’s happening around us, or whether we respond. Love is the energy of response, because we accept that everything happens for a reason, and what we can’t change, we need to accept and learn from so we can move forward. Put simply, instead of wondering why something is happening to you, ask yourself what you can learn from the situation to improve your life. That’s working from love rather than fear. Focus on the love, and the Universe will bring more blessings into your life, because like attracts like.
Now we are clear on the perspectives of love and fear, how does this relate to forgiveness, and why does it matter to us? For a start, if you are replaying old hurts, whether real or perceived, it’s anchoring you in the past, and preventing you from fully enjoying the present. And since everything is energy, each time you think about or talk about the situation, you are reinforcing the energetic ties to a time, place and people that belong in your past. No matter how justified your feelings may be, they are not serving you, so you need to distance yourself so you can move forward, having learned the lesson. Everything, good or bad, carries a lesson for us, or for someone else involved in the situation. If we didn’t need to learn from it, it just wouldn’t happen. The Universe doesn’t send challenges because it has it in for us, in fact the opposite is true. Nothing happens ‘just because,’ if we are on the wrong path, or we need to acknowledge something about ourselves that we have been ignoring, then something will happen to bring about the necessary changes. So what is forgiveness really, and how do we extend it to those who have hurt us?
Forgiveness is so much more than saying you’re okay with someone’s behaviour. In fact, you never need to say that, but you do need to connect with and feel forgiveness for the person and/or the situation in question. That doesn’t mean you condone or excuse their behaviour, and it doesn’t mean you need to have anything more to do with them if you prefer not to. Here’s the surprise – forgiveness is a gift, but it’s not a gift to the other person, it’s the most sacred gift you can give to yourself. Once you can truly forgive, you release yourself from all the negativity surrounding the situation. You can step back and see things more clearly, because you are now energetically detached from it. Once you forgive, you’ll be able to identify the lessons of the experience, and you may even realise the motivation behind it, although it doesn’t matter if you don’t. You are not responsible for the choices and actions of others, only your own thoughts, words and deeds.
So how do we truly forgive? We send love to the situation, and to those involved, and I am going to take you through a visualisation to help you do just that. It was given to me by Spirit, and it’s a beautiful exercise that will leave you feeling lighter and happier. We’re going to call in help from the Angelic Realm as well, in the shape of Archangel Jeremiel, the Angel of Forgiveness.
Jeremiel is not one of the more widely known archangels, but he’s the go-to angel for help with forgiveness, whether you need to forgive yourself or others. Yes, you heard that right. Sometimes, we are our own worse critics, and we blame ourselves for stuff all the time. That impacts on how we see ourselves, and again, it can bring negative energy in its wake, so it’s important to acknowledge that we need to show forgiveness to ourselves as well as others.
Archangel Jeremiel’s name means ‘Mercy of God,’ and of course, to forgive, we must show mercy to others, and he can help us with that. As with any angel, you can invoke Jeremiel’s help simply by inviting him into your life. Remember we need to ask the angels for help, as we have free will. Jeremiel will help you let go of the past and acknowledge the lessons learned, so you can continue to learn and grow. He can help you understand how and why certain situations came about, and that understanding will help you avoid repeating patterns that don’t serve your highest good.
Jeremiel is also known as the Angel of Visions and Dreams, so the best time to invoke him is at night, when he can bring insights and wisdom as you sleep. However, this forgiveness visualization can be carried out whenever it suits you best, and Jeremiel will happily help you with it.
Sit comfortably, with your feet on the floor and your back straight. Rest your hands on your thighs, palms up, in the receiving position. Close your eyes, and take three deep, calming breaths. Breath in white, cleansing light for a count of three, hold for three, then exhale any stress and tensions to a count of three. If you want, you can call on Archangel Jeremiel to help with the process. Whether you feel his energy or not, know that he is there with you. Now you are ready to visualize open-hearted forgiveness.
Visualisation for opening the heart and forgiving those who hurt you
This is a beautiful visualisation, which can also be used to send love to anyone, at any time. You may want to check out this visualisation, which is very similar. Forgiveness is a sacred and beautiful gift to yourself. Make sure you are generous with it, and release yourself from past experiences which do not serve you. Love and blessings.
Image credits: The images of Archangel Jeremiel are from my own card decks, Angel Prayers by Kyle Gray and Archangels by Diana Cooper. Other images Pixabay.